It’s not always that easy to please family. I always knew it was hard – but recently I’ve learnt that family life can be even harder to navigate than I could ever imagine.
Of course it would be different if you could choose your family – but I guess that’s why it’s called family!
Don’t get me wrong, I love my family – but more often than not things get a little complicated.
I got engaged recently and like with every big event, my family likes to have their say in everything. I bet some of you can relate to this. Before my fiancé and I even started planning anything we had a good few phone calls from my parents telling us what we should do and how we should do it.
I’m pretty independent, so naturally it was hard for me to be told what to do, but I’ve learnt a lot about myself in this season. I’ve learnt that I could actually work on my patience. I’ve learnt that being a man means you need to make hard decisions. And I’ve also learnt that you cannot please everyone.
Dealing with family is often hard – to be honest, most of the time I feel like I’m getting it wrong. But one piece of advice is worth following: As much as you hate it when family gets involved, make sure that you honour you parents in everything.
It’s often hard because, in the moment, you can’t understand why they feel the way they feel. Yet it’s a Godly principle – honouring your parents is a must. I’m not saying you should do everything that they want you to do – especially as an adult you need to do what’s best for you. The line between honouring them and just doing what you’re told is very fine.
Be sure to always honour your parents. At the same time, make great decisions for you, not for them.
Godspeed.