Have you ever paused for a moment to ask yourself the following:  “what shapes my character in my day-to-day?” It’s an interesting question to ask oneself every now and then, right? As we often without realising it let the season that we are in, the circumstances and situations we are faced with, as well as what we entertain, or who we hang out with, influence and shape our character. In turn, these things can either inspire and encourage us to be “more than”, or it can cause us to think negatively or think less of  ourselves.

For example, many, many years ago I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship. As a consequence I thought and believe that I was “less than”, as though I was never good enough. Which in turn made me feel like I deserved this kind of unhealthy love. I let that person, that relationship, influence me negatively. It shaped my mind, my heart and my actions in a very negative way.


Once I got out of that relationship, I had to unlearn all the negative ways of thinking and behaving. I had to realise my sense of worth and identity was (and still is) found in knowing who I am in my faith, as a Christian. When I became familiar with Gods voice, with His nature, and learnt about Him and His promises in the bible, I became confident, I felt whole, I felt loved. My relationship with God continues to inspire, shape and influence me to be a better version of myself. In short, to be who God called me to be.

Because of having this deep revelation and understanding of who I am in Christ, I now know and understand my sense of self-worth, and I therefore, make sure that in my day-to-day that I am letting things shape and influence me for the better. Therefore, I won’t settle for any nonsense that distracts me or points in a direction that will cause me to think, feel, or behave in a way that is less than .


  • People in our lives should shape, and inspire us to be better versions of ourselves.
  • What we read whether it be online, or a book should shape and inspire us to think good positive thoughts.
  • Who we speak to and what we speak about should inspire us to speak kindly and highly of others.


From the thoughts that you entertain in your head, to relationships that infiltrate our hearts, through to things that shape our behavior –  ask yourself the following :

What holds weight and power over you? What shapes and inspires you to be a better version of yourself? What shapes or influences you in a way that is negative ?

Maybe it’s to time to have a closer look at those things and know what things to let go of, and what to hold onto. Maybe it’s letting go of unhealthy toxic friendships or relationships. Maybe it’s time to stop having those negative talks with others that cause you doubt. Maybe it’s time to invest in healthy friendships, maybe it’s time to invest in books that will build and inspire you to dream bigger.

Maybe it’s time to get more personal with God, and let Him to an internal heart check with you, so that you can be the best version of yourself in your day-to-day.

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