Some days you just feel ugh. It’s as if something takes over your head and slowly whispers negative words into your brain. They travel down your spine and nestle into your heart and you can’t let it go. All of a sudden you feel grumpy about everything. It’s bad mood central and somebody may die.

This happens to all of us. The thing is, more often than not recurring bad moods are a sign of something that needs to be worked through. Worrying and obsessing about negative stuff will never get you anyway. If you have bad moods which would rival a woken viper then try these few things to see what is really going on.

What am I feeling?

Stop for a moment and isolate your feeling so that you aren’t so much feeling it as thinking about the feeling from an objective standpoint. Be honest. Are you feeling insecure, afraid, prideful, or angry?

When did I start to feel this way?

Can you pick the moment when you first started to feel this way? When you can pick the moment you are often on the way to realising why it is that you are not happy. Did someone say something? Did you see something? Did something happen which raised an old hurt?

What’s the core wound?

A core wound is something that happened that you haven’t worked out yet. It could be something that happened in childhood. It could be something that happened in a relationship. Often we go about life and don’t dig under the surface to discover what is underneath the actual negative signs. These core wounds tend to pop up when we don’t want them to unless they are addressed.

Wrap it in love

Try to take a moment of self-care here. Look at the wound and then forgive those you hurt you. Forgive yourself and ask God to help you with this. Forgiveness is vital to letting it go and learning from the situation instead of holding onto it.

Take responsibility

You can respond to this situation in a number of ways and how you respond is your responsibility. You can’t always prevent things from happening and you can’t change the past. What you can do, is take responsibility for the situation moving forward. I take responsibility for creating the best possible next steps for myself.

What’s the best next step?

Be practical and be bold. Part of the whole responsibility thing is knowing what will make you happy and then taking the right steps to do that. Ask for what you want and try to move in this direction. It will leave you feeling like an agent instead of a victim.

What do I need right now and how is the best way to move forward?

Communicate, communicate, communicate

If someone else is involved in this situation then share what has happened and how it has made you feel without blame. Listen to the other side of the story and decide together how to move things forward.

Get accountability

If you want things to change and move forward then talk to somebody about the situation so that you can have verbal accountability. This creates an agreement which is a change agent and will help you to change

Nobody wants to have a bad mood, or experience someone else who is in a bad mood. Don’t let anything take your day and make it horrible. Take it back! Remember, we’re not put on the planet to live grumpy lives. We were put on the planet to thrive, enjoy life and give back.