Whether religious or not, there are many who believe it’s better to wait until there is a marriage commitment before having sex with their partner.

It’s something that’s full of pleasure and fun right – so why take that away if it’s at your front door knocking?

I chose to wait and I believe it was one of the greatest decisions I have ever made. This isn’t a legalistic opinion, it’s merely my thoughts on the decision I chose to make.

There are four areas of my life that I feel benefitted from this decision:

1. I stayed healthy. Let’s be real – sleeping around can come with some nasty little buggers. From HIV to STD’s.

2. I am no one’s daddy other than to the little boy me and wife are parents too.

3. I am wholeheartedly dedicated to my wife. No part of my heart has been left behind with another woman due to the emotional tie you can form when sleeping with someone. Don’t get me wrong – these ties aren’t permanent if you choose to break them. God offers freedom to everyone. However, that’s not something I needed to deal with because I chose to wait.

4. I felt I honoured God. Above all I felt I was walking in obedience and aligning my life to the calling God had placed on it. Would my dreams have been shattered had I not honoured this? Who knows, there’s grace so maybe not, but it’s not a risk I was willing to take.

“Saving yourself” has become a far-off, unrealistic expectation. It no longer is the norm. I think it’s time we rethink things and just maybe reset the norm.

Why not? And even if you have slipped up but are keen to start today, why not? You’re not excluded, no one is.

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