I know it’s hard to admit, but some people don’t like you. It’s a tough pill to swallow for all of us, but the reality is that some people will like us and some won’t.
Some people we will inadvertently rub the wrong way, others will take offence at something we said or did. Either way, chances are there are a number of people in your world right now who don’t like you.
Before you get down in the mouth, I have some good news. It’s good news that I had to recently remind myself of and I’m contemplating printing it and sticking it up on my wall in my office.
Some people don’t like me and that’s okay!
I came across this really cute little poem, which puts it quite nicely:
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are Your People.
Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince the people who aren’t your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.
Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognise and appreciate your gifts, who you are.
Be who you are. You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.
Sobering but true, hey? So how do you navigate life when people don’t like you?
- Don’t give them a reason: Some people don’t like you no matter what you do; others don’t like you because of something you did do or say. So try to eliminate just cause as much you as you can. Be nice to people, treat them well, and know in your heart you have treated others the way you would want to be treated.
- Like yourself: Whether everyone likes you or whether no-one likes you, it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you like yourself. That you like the person in the mirror. You like the way you think, you like the way you act, and you like the way you treat people.
There’s a great verse in the Bible that I try to live by. Jesus said, “Do to others what you would have them do to you.” These are wise words that I try to live by. What about you?
Being loved unconditionally by God goes a long way in loving others and yourself. If you would like to know more about this love for you, please click on the link below or on the pop up.