After three years of not performing or releasing a song, Justin Bieber releases a hit and goes straight to the top of the charts of almost every radio station in the world and hit countdown.
It’s a great song, with a catchy beat and even more so a question that we all ask one time or the other while dating: what do you mean?
Here is the chorus:
When you nod your head yes
But you wanna say no
What do you mean?
When you don’t want me to move
But you tell me to go
What do you mean?
What do you mean?
Said we’re running out of time
What do you mean?
Better make up your mind
What do you mean?
Have you ever been in one of these situations where you are left asking yourself the question: what did he/she mean?
I’m sure you have found yourself not sleeping or not eating or writing a text but not sending it. Or sending a Whatsapp message then constantly checking if the ticks have gone blue. That feeling when you can see they are online yet they haven’t replied, but they said they wanted to chat? What do you mean?
One of the common ones we all seem to encounter – I would love to date you but I just don’t know if I’m ready. And then a week later they are dating someone else! What do you mean?
What I found true in these seasons of the unknown and mixed signals is I need to be myself and not lay my identity in someone else’s ‘what did you mean’.
Easier said than done right? I had to draw close to something higher and greater then what I was going through. I would close the door and speak to God, deliberately take time out to clear away the mental clutter. Choosing to empty my heart of the what did you mean thoughts was the best thing I could do.
The danger of placing too much value on what people mean can have you running in circles. The distraction can be your destruction. Is it really worth it? Wouldn’t it be amazing to be so secure in who you are as an individual that whether or not what others mean is for good or bad, you are still firm in your mission, your identity and your joy.
Being a firm person allows you to be consistent, being consistent allows you to view things with eyes that see things for what they are and not the insecurity glasses of what they might be. Being able to handle a confusing situation with ease is something I will always aspire to do. The confidence to stand firm may take its time to be fully yours, but it can be and will be, if you set your sight on it.
What about your season of uncertainty; what do you run to? Do you run to the friend who is asking the same question ‘what do they mean?’ or to Google who is full of facts and suggestions or are you open to lifting your eyes up and allowing God to whisper into your heart?
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