Loving others freely without fear being caught up in the midst of it is, well, not easy and does not always come naturally to most of us. We live in a very beautiful, yet broken world, with flawed people, who did not always grow up seeing or experiencing unconditional love. Some people have grown up only knowing divorce, abuse, emotional neglect, brokenness, disappointment, disengaged parenting, or parents leaving and abandoning their children.
Most people have had to endure heartache, pain, and disappointment in places that were meant to be safe spaces for them growing up. Then out of their past being their only reference for what love should be like, they now need to love others from that broken space. Therefore, they will love from a place of fear. They will find it hard to trust others fully. They might either want to control others out of fear of being rejected, or they might run away from love all together as a means of avoiding any pain altogether. You see fear will always stop us from growing in love, as it will always be based on inward internal insecurities.
Real love always focuses on the other person, it takes the focus off of your fears and it helps you to establish trust as a firm loving foundation within your relationship. A relationship or friendship can never fully thrive when there is fear entangled within it – it will suffocate the relationship, and cause it to come to a dismal end.
In the Bible it says:
“Love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it … shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love” – 1 John 4:18
In order to be able to love fully and freely, we need to understand and accept the love God has towards us. God loves us fully, not based on conditions and not based on our failures and achievements – He just completely loves us. When we allow God’s perfect love into our hearts, He starts to heal all of our brokenness. His perfect love teaches us how to love others fully and freely, without fear. In His perfect love, we learn to overcome our fears and insecurities, because His perfect love gives us the courage that we need to love others beautifully.
If you are wanting to experience fullness and freedom that comes with perfect unconditional love that God our Father has in store for all of us – then may I encourage you to click on the link below. We would love to chat with you and help you on this journey of experiencing His love!