I don’t think that anyone really loves to relish and linger in pain. If anything most people want quick instant fixes when it comes to emotional healing. If you hurt a part of your body physically, after a while with the right treatment, you start to note the evident healing that takes place. When we can visibly see that we are being healed, we feel a bit more motivated, hopeful, because we know in those moments that the physically pain is healing, making amends and is being restored.
However, when it comes to matters of the heart, and pain that leaves us feeling broken, we tend to feel overwhelmed and hopeless. Emotional distress and pain can be felt, not necessarily seen, therefore, it tends to feel unrelenting and pretty much never-ending. When we feel so overwhelmed by our emotions, we often stay in limbo not knowing what to do with ourselves.
We can either choose to be patient with the healing process, and let it ride its course, or we can ignore it all together, and pretend like nothing is wrong, and never really progress, heal and move forward. Many years ago I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship, and I can honestly say that it took years to recover and to heal. There were times when I thought to myself; “Surely, I should be over this? Surely, my heart is healed from all the pain, hurt and disappointment, surely?!” Parts of my heart were healed, but there were other parts that still needed healing.
Healing from pain is very uncomfortable, as we have no control over it. We have to be brave enough to ride it out, to face it, and to forgive if need be, and let go of it, in order to heal. We can never rush, skip past, or ignore our emotional well-being when it comes to the healing and restoration of the heart.
So, you now acknowledge that you need to bind up those emotional wounds and let them heal once and for all. Easier said than done right? If only we could flip a magical switch that made all the bad go away, and made us feel happy and content without putting in the work, time and effort?!
Here are a few friendly practical tips to help you overcome your pain, and to help you see the light at the end of the tunnel.
- Acknowledge the pain
- Choose to let go and forgive and to trust again
- Choose joy regardless
- Ask close friends to support and encourage you
- Acknowledge the progress that you make
- Speak life, joy and peace over your life
- Kknow that your pain and past don’t define or control you
- Ask God for help, every single day!
Practical tip number 8 listed above was my main go-to. There were days were I felt like I had no clue how I was going to recover and push through the pain. But, I can honestly say, that when I handed over my day to God, and all the details that concerned me – I always felt as if He strengthened me and gave me the support and comfort that I needed to get through each day.
Fast forward many years later, and I feel completely healed and free. So much so, that my past feels like a faded distant memory! God wants us to live a life full of joy, and freedom. All we need to do is reach out to Him, and ask Him to help us and without hesitation He will do only what He can do in and through our lives!
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. – Psalm 147:3
Be brave enough to reach out to God in your moments of heartache and despair and let Him do only what he can do. Let Him restore the broken, let Him piece back every shattered detail, and let Him fully restore, refresh and heal your pain!
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